Stop Taking Your Clothes Off For Attention
You might not watch pornography, but if you have an Instagram, you are definitely seeing porn. It’s soft porn, but it’s porn nonetheless. There is no question about that. You cannot open a social media app without seeing suggested content of women exposing their bodies, posed in scandalous stances. What is it about social media that encourages this type of behavior? Why are women encouraged to take their clothes off?
I think the answers to those questions begin with what I call “flat-screen syndrome,” which is something I made up during the George Floyd riots. Flat-screen syndrome is a condition in which someone justifies their behavior by citing someone who did something that offended them. For example, when a black man dies and police are involved, people say, “I’m a black person, I’m upset this happened to someone I don’t even know, and because of this, I’m allowed to run into Target and steal a flat screen TV.” They think that even though they’re behaving poorly, no one should reprimand them because someone else did something to offend them. Basically, it excuses bad behavior.
This syndrome bleeds over into the world of nudes that people, women in particular, post on Instagram. I have always made it a point to encourage women who follow me on social media to have respect for themselves. Regardless of your race or any other category you find yourself in, you should have respect for yourself. It is simple. Having respect for yourself means keeping your mystery; it means not allowing people to see you half naked on the Internet for likes and for clicks.
But the standard of beauty has gotten confusing for women. Women don’t even know what beauty is anymore. Women seem to believe that posting their bodies on the Internet for someone to like their post somehow means they are beautiful — but it’s anything but that. Yet women seem to think that in order to get attention or be heard, they should take their clothes off.
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To return to my original questions, I’ll share a situation from a few months ago, when a friend of mine tweeted about how many women in their thirties are freezing their eggs because they haven’t found a partner and “musical chairs isn’t ending the way people told women it would.” In other words, moving from man to man, having loose relationships, and being noncommittal does not end with empowerment, nor does it end happily. As you age as a woman, you want a partner — and you realize you’ve been sold a bill of lies. This friend got some backlash from women for this tweet because it’s not permissible to mention women and biology, even though, as my friend stated, he regularly tells men to get blood work done for health reasons. Yet it’s true that with age, women change biologically. But women are confused, lost, and unaware of what it means to be beautiful and desirable.
Women that are engaging in getting naked on the Internet for clicks, likes, and money are not fulfilled. They don’t have stable relationships. They don’t have family. And they don’t have respect for themselves. Because of that, other people don’t have respect for them either. Good guidance — from society at large — is nonexistent for women. And they are broken. Men are broken too, but I would argue that women are much more broken than men are. That brokenness stems from the advice the dominant voices are giving, which is backwards — and it’s wrong.
You will never get anything from the exterior life to fulfill you on the inside. If you’re taking your clothes off for attention, you need to work on yourself on the inside.
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