Turn off your phone, and other travel tips by a prominent frequent traveller

Former Microsoft Corporation executive Mickey Ashmore is the owner of shoe brand Sabah, which he created in 2013. It produces leather shoes inspired by the traditional Turkish slipper and has five retail outlets globally.

A new flagship store in New York City, called Sabah House, opened this year. At that location, he can showcase the lines the company now produces beyond its core collection, mostly small leather goods and accessories.

Sabah’s latest brand extension: a fragrance, inspired by two of Ashmore’s favourite places, Turkiye and the American southwest.

Ashmore’s annual flight miles tally is almost 120,000, and he’ll default to Turkish Airlines any time he can. “There’s a dish called kofte in Turkiye – it’s meatballs – and one of the best versions of that you can find is on that airline.”

Ashmore also touts its stopover programme, which allows anyone connecting via Istanbul to break up their trip without charge. “What’s cooler than flying across the world and then spending two days in Istanbul before you hit your next leg?”

The 35-year-old jet-setter lives in Nolita in New York. Here are his travel tips.

1. A boardgame can be the ultimate friend-maker and time-passer on the road.

I always carry a leather roll-up backgammon board – it’s a vintage corduroy one from a friend in Dallas. One of the most fun ways to break the ice and invite a stranger or new acquaintance in for conversation is to offer up a spontaneous game of backgammon on-the-go. I started doing it when I was dating someone; when we would travel, we would bring a board along with us.

We went to Brazil once for three weeks, and after a week together, sometimes you want to be out together but you just can’t chat any more. The backgammon board is something to do.

Boardgames like backgammon can be a great way to start conversations with locals while travelling. — FURKANFDEMIR/Pexels

We found people asking to play, and then it became something I did. I just travelled solo to Patmos in Greece a few weeks ago, and I would bring my backgammon board to the beach, and probably I met 12 people who would just see the board and say, “Can I play a game?”

Chess requires a lot of concentration – you can’t really drink a beer or two and play chess well, but you can have as many as you want and your backgammon game doesn’t necessarily get worse. It’s more social, and you can teach someone to play in about 20 minutes.

2. There’s a magic number of trips it takes to really relax into a destination.

I call myself a repeat offender as a traveller: I like to travel to the same place over and over again. That’s why I’ve been to Mexico City 10 times, or go back to Oaxaca (Mexico) every winter. There’s something really nice about travelling back to a place, seeing the same faces again, and you get to sink a little deeper into it.

I stay in the same hotel, and even try to request the same room. The trip becomes less about seeing it all and more about being there. By the third trip, you know what to do and naturally find more things – that’s the magic number of visits, three, when you start relaxing into a place.

3. The Middle East is renowned for cutting edge luxury, but Ashmore recommends an alternative.

I went to Oman with a friend from Dubai for three days, and we spent them hiking and camping – it was the opposite of luxurious in the classic sense, but it was a luxury in that we were totally alone. We camped on Fin’s beach, right at the end of a wadi, one of those waterways that goes back into the desert.

I remember waking up on that beach – we’d gotten there very late at night, so we didn’t exactly know where we were. And suddenly that view! The emptiness of it all was amazing, the huge beach, the desert behind us, and the sea in front.

I remember feeling very small, and very happy to be there.

There’s a place called Musandam, right at the tip of the Arabian peninsula and cut off from the rest of Oman, where we took a boat tour through all these fjords. You see Telegraph Hill, which is where the British ran the telegraph from India to, and connected all the way back through Europe.

4. Turn off your phone while on vacation.

I was just in Paris for eight days, and I turned off my phone and laptop the whole time. For photos, I have a Fujifilm digital camera I travel with, but honestly, I didn’t use it that much.

To me, the greatest luxury these days is disconnection, not distance. In my mind, the phone is the greatest threat to actually being where you want to be.

Ashmore in Lebanon in 2019. He recommends visiting Beirut if you’re looking for some fashion inspirations. — MICKEY ASHMORE/Instagram

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